21 Jan Key Confidence Boosters To Help You Be More Confident

A lot of people would have second thoughts in answering the question, “Are you as confident as you want to be?” Most would shy away from the spotlight, and hide in a cocoon. Only very few generally feel ready to show their true selves. What most people don’t know is that anyone can become confident and be the best that they can be. You can actually teach yourself how to be confident. You don’t believe it, do you? Take out your paper and pen because, here at VIC Park Psychology, we’ll give you the key confidence boosters to help you be more confident. Let’s get started.

1. Forget the Common Notions

It’s the common idea that being confident means to be able to speak in public and have leadership skills. Together with this common notion is the misconception that people are born confident of themselves. To teach yourself to become confident, you have to forget these common assumptions. Actually, the natural human state is to shy away and be cautious. Believe it or not, these traits are part of the human gene pool, because, in earlier times, people had to be careful to survive. Forget about what others would say and think, what matters is what you think.

2. Do It Yourself

To become the most confident you, you have to take action. Do something, and get it done all by yourself, this allows you to feel better about yourself. As opposed to sitting and doing nothing, moving your body and achieving something makes you feel good. This may sound simple and easy, but it’s quite the opposite. Here are the things that you can do to make things easier:

• Do it today, don’t wait for tomorrow: If you keep thinking that you can do it tomorrow, you’ll end up overthinking. Doing it today can fight off any emotional resistance, and will put your mind in a state where you’re focused.
• Let go: Don’t take things too seriously, and avoid putting too much pressure on yourself. If you’re considering everything too seriously, you’re only limiting yourself and could end up making things seem more difficult, more prominent and scarier than they are. Let go, lighten up and relax, then all of your actions will seem to flow more smoothly.
• Want all of it: If you really want it, you won’t have to force yourself to take action. Notice that when you really want something, you can’t wait to start working on it?

3. Let Go of Your Fears

Did you know that one of the best ways to become confident is to face your fears? Yes, you heard it right, if you meet your fears, you’ll gain the strength and courage to achieve anything, thus giving you confidence. Your worries will only hold you back, like chains that are going to drag you down. So, if you want to have a higher level of self-confidence, face your fears and let go of them.

4. Remember that It’s a Process

It’s a step-by-step process, just because you’ve shared your blog post or spoken publicly today, it doesn’t mean you’ll be instantly more confident tomorrow. It’s like learning to stand up and walk, you’ll slowly go through stages until you’ve finally perfected it. It might be scary at first, but gradually with enough practice and patience, you’ll be able to do it.

5. There’s No Harm in Making Mistakes

If you’ve been wrong or fail the first time, nothing good will come out of beating yourself up.  Remember that a lot of people are making mistakes every single day, and people before you have made mistakes. Don’t think about what other people would say; think about what you would say to yourself. Use your mistakes and failures to grow and gain that self-confidence.

When you forget all the common notions, do everything yourself, let go all of the fears, remember that becoming confident is a process, and stop being afraid of making mistakes. In time you’ll have more confidence. You’ll be sure about yourself and what you can achieve. Start doing these now, as this may be a never-ending process. Become stable, centered in yourself, and watch as your confidence grows over time.